Angela Duckworth is my GRIT hero!
I stumbled onto her TED Talk last September when their Middle School embraced her challenge to teach kid’s a growth mindset.
Last Fall, I was extremely fascinated by this notion of GRIT, and since I am on Round Two of Parenting on Track, I decided to revisit the Ted Talk again too.
So how is this working out for my Middle School boys who have experienced the “philosophy” at school?
Well, their teachers mention it in their progress reports:
“Can you show me more GRIT?”
“Remember GRIT?”
“Hope you can get some GRIT”?
Ummmmm… my boys are NOT getting Straight As in the classroom…so their teachers think they need more grit….but not sure they are sure how to guide them toward it….or if that is really even their job. This GRIT thing is new for a lot of people. But I like that is catching on in my community.
My youngest son knows -what the acronym means- and he showed some tough, relentless, persistent, GRIT yesterday to find a way to qualify to play in his lacrosse game. DS12.1 has been hovering around a F-Bomb in English all quarter long. It was sitting at a 59.8% yesterday and he had been told for many months that F = NO PLAY. He had until 3:45pm to make sure that the grade had been updated by the teacher.
He pushed the envelope. He does that rather often.
2:25pm: Mom: “What a bummer that I’m not going to see you play today. I notice that your English teacher didn’t update your grade”.
2:25pm: “Maybe I should email her”. {He says all of this in a nonchalant way…I’m twitching inside…calm on the outside}
2:30pm: “She hasn’t answered my email yet”… “Maybe I should send her another one”.
3:03pm: ” MOMMMMMMMMMM….She hasn’t answered my email yet”
3:03pm: Mom: “Maybe she went home for the day”.
3:05pm: “This CANNOT be happening! This CANNOT happen! I have to play! PLLLLLEEEEEEaaaaaaSSSSSSeeeee let me play and I promise I will work it out with her tomorrow”.
3:05pm: Mom: “Sorry Buddy”
{He is panicking…he is plotting….he is begging…pleading….I am giving DH updates and we are giving each other Pep Talks that we will not cave into the temptation to bail him out…’this will be a great lesson for him’….We are Strong. We are United!}
3:06 to 3:26 Things are getting crazy….
3:21:36 (time stamped on email) He takes the INITIATIVE to send another email:
i really need you to email be back because i can’t play! Please respond before 3:40
3:25:34 The teacher responds:
…
I wish I could help you, but you did not turn in your homework today – the focus lessons packet. That may have brought up your grade. Also, I thought you were going to put the “Eleven” activities in the late work basket today. I hope you will soon have more grit.
Mrs. B
3:26 I text the DH that the English teacher held firm and to be prepared to support our kid who will be sitting on the bench. I’ve made it clear to him that he is still wearing his uniform and going to the game to support his team. He is mortified. I gather all my empathy (I’ve been practicing in the mirror for such an occasion) and resist the Judgement Mom sigh and eye roll… I am really feeling for him and let him know that I will stand behind him when he explains to his coaches why he can’t play. I have to leave to go get my oldest who is working on a group science project.
So here comes the tenacity and “Won’t Take No For An Answer” part of the story….
3:26:44
i really need you to just round it up because i need to play please!!!
3:30:51 He sends another email
if you can round my grade up just this time i will show you all the grit i have and i won’t talk in your class. Ill turn in all the work i have missing by friday!
She answers him (don’t know if I would have done that as a middle school teacher…but this kid has charm and charisma that can SUCK the life out of you! (kidding!)
3:32:14
I gave you points for doing part of the “Eleven” activities. I hope to see it completed and in the late work basket tomorrow.
Thanks,
Mrs. B
3:33:16 {Smart kid realizes that Parents are not budging if the grade isn’t changed or an email isn’t sent to me…note I am driving unaware of all of this}
did that bring my grade up to a D?
3:35:05 {I am sure he is sweating it out now… Will she answer? Will she not? Will I play? Will my Mom really make me go to the game?}
Yes.
I am now receiving FaceTime calls from my kid {I’m thinking he is a puddle mess. I am unaware of all the initiative and tenacity to motivate his teacher to stop what she is doing and actually go in and change the grade in the online Parentlink system so that he has proof of a ding dong D grade} To my surprise he seems enthusiastic and happy and now He is showing me live shots of all the emails on my computer. “So I’m going to the game. I get to play!”
He pulls it off again.
He has this special talent.
There is a small part of me that is …well…proud….and relieved. He will survive in life. He will exhaust us and probably his coaches, bosses, co-workers, etc….but he has GRIT.
He also has some manners.
3:36:03 {He write the teacher again}
Thank you so much i will try my very hardest and show you all the grit i can take out of me.
I am sure she is cringing at the lack of capitalization and grammar in his emails…She has a lot of work to do in her 6th grade English class.